What is or are your goals in life? Do you want to do them ordinarily or extraordinarily? Do you still strive to fit an ordinary mold or dare stand apart and be extraordinary? I know my goals in life. They often require me doing ordinary things with an extraordinary mindset, or be outright extraordinary in my being and thinking, and doing. I count on God for Grace and it’s been AMAZING all along. I had to struggle with the realization that I was called to greatness, having it within me from the time I was formed and born. But since I set on the self rediscovery, affirming and asserting Journey, there is no being, going or doing ordinary things again. And yes, that’s a mantra I remind myself daily, to wake up each day with gratitude for another moment in life to be extraordinary, to think extraordinary, and to do even the seemingly ordinary things of life the extraordinary way by GRACE AMAZING AMEN. Happy new week social media family, today is the 7th and last day of an epic 7 days spiritual retreat I embarked on, and am of course looking at rounding it up the EXTRAORDINARY way…to God be the Glory for He is so GOOD ALL THE TIME. #IamMAGnectic #iamfreedomnlove #MAGinspires #MAGmotivates #MAGencourages #MAGtakesthelead #MAGisintentional #attitudeofgratitude #acceptitallwithlove #doitallwithlove #sayitallwithlove #letGodnloelead #livelovelaughlearn
Do we know that Children also suffer tremendously from domestic violence even if they are not the direct victims? That some children even grow up feeling they are the cause of the violence in their homes and can even wish themselves dead? That recently an 11 year old child in South Africa committed suicide because they believed they were the cause of their mothers seperation from their father and all her unhappiness? We parents and guardians have to be very mindful about what we say or do to or around our children especially violent words or actions. Listen to the newest and upcoming volunteer in our team Ms. Sonita Mbiaoh reflect some on that. Do not hesitate to reach out to us, and nurture your children with love not violence. #mentalhealthmatters #breakthestigma #bethehope #thereishope ##notodomesticviolence
Watch our young web developer Alain Michel inspire us on why or how to use social media for our personal development/growth especially during this pandemic. In times like these with some hopelessness and helplessness around especially in our youths, with all the uncertainty around us, and so much toxic and conflicting or confusing stuffs on social media, being prudent, mindful and conscious of why or how we use social media to begin with is very timely. What better voice than that of a 16 year old inspiration to reflect on that? #thereishope #bethehope
On Monday the 24th August, our Admin and HR officer Ms Estela Mah did a presentation on understanding conflict as well as various conflict resolution techniques we could use to manage conflict .
The presentation was pursuant to a 10days secluse for the 4th Training of Trainers workshop on peace Transformation organized by the PCC peace Office of the Presbyterian Church of Cameroon.
A conflict is a disagreement between two or more people and is equally a mental struggle resulting from opposing needs, wants, wishes, external or internal expectations.
Conflict when not resolved has many effects on the mental health of all involved. Conflicts can lead mental health challenges and illnesses such as, post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, depression, substance misuse, and precipitation of psychosis in extreme cases.
The key points noted in conflict resolution were; a) Identifying all the relevant groups involved b) Understanding the perspective of all these groups. c) Learning from failures as well as successes.
The tool that were recommended included the conflict tree that helped us to resolve a conflict by identifying the main reasons of that conflict which are the roots and trying to solve them at that point before the whole tree grows into a big one that will represent a great problem.
Some of the conflict resolution techniques given were; a) Problem Solving / Collaboration / Confronting b) Compromising/Reconciling c) Withdrawing/Avoiding d) Forcing/Competing e) Smoothing/Accommodating Nonviolent communication was equally advised as it helps to guide us on how we express ourselves, how we hear others and resolve conflicts by focusing our consciousness. It is a tool that leads us toward a quality of connection among people where everyone’s needs are valued and met through compassion and its components are; observation, feelings, needs and requests.
The do no harm concept she elaborated on speaks to all humanitarian actors. It calls on us to avoid exposing people to additional risk through our actions and involves taking a step back from our social actions and mitigate potential effects to the environment, economy in times of conflict.
Some of the practices and behaviours that can cause harm and lead to conflicts include: a) When behaviors are not adapted to the cultural contex;t b) When there is an abuse of power (Sexual exploitation and abuse by some humanitarian field workers for example); c) Failure to comply with humanitarian principles; d) Selection of beneficiaries and special privileges giving rise to tension; e) Creation of expectations to which interventions can not not respond; f) Data collection without taking into consideration the dignity of the beneficiaries (Management of sensitive information without precautions).
Overall, it was a great presentation well mastered and explained by Ms. Estela, and the whole team was inspired.
Are you in any conflicting situation? Is it with self or others? Do not suffer in silence, we are offering psychotherapeutic support so do not hesitate to reach out to us
Our founder was a guest on an very important platform to talk about the corelation about mental health and Menstruation matters.
Maybe some ladies didn’t grow up in a society which stigmatizes menstruation; maybe it wasn’t a taboo to talk about menstruation in your community; maybe you didn’t lack a sanitary pad ever; or maybe just maybe you always had the right information about your reproductive organs which are largely affected by your menses? But in our community and many many others around the world, menstruation has been such a hush hush and even ‘unclean’ thing to talk about or pay attention to. And yes, when you go about something in such ‘eggshell’ way, there is bound to be anxiety, frustration, hopelessness, helplessness and outright depression which could lead to other mental health challenges and even suicide in extreme cases. And maybe the men don’t know what the girls and women go through or just don’t care? We will continue to share our reflections and raise awareness on such issues.
Good mental health doesn’t necessarily mean being happy all the time. Women with good mental health can experience happiness and sadness, anger, and excitement, all in healthy ways. When you have good habits to improve mental health, it means your mind can perform all its functions appropriately. You can do things such as: Learn new information Build strong relationships with other people Adapt quickly to change Experience a range of emotions in a healthy way Work and contribute productively
A variety of factors can affect your mental function and health. These factors can be as simple as being sleep-deprived or hungry or as complex as eating disorders and major depression. Depending on your state of mental health, you can increase your wellbeing with healthy habits. If you’re concerned about the current state of your mental health, then seek the support of experienced healthcare professionals. Good habits to improve mental health will look different for every woman. For instance, some women relax by taking a quiet bath while others release stress through physical activity. To help maintain good mental health, you can: Exercise regularly. Practice mindfulness (living in the moment). Get eight hours of sleep each night. Express gratitude for things and people in your life. Say positive things about yourself and others. Make new friends and connections. Participate in activities you enjoy.
Our founder is a regular guest on different national and international virtual platforms to continue raising awareness and sensitizing on different societal issues at stake especially during these challenging times
On the 11th of July, our founder was once more a guest on the platform aptly titled “Afro Boss Lady to talk about rape culture in Africa. She spoke using some statistics of her engagements in the community both as a lawyer and a psychotherapist who has worked with over 30 children victims or rape and incest. Kindly watch the show at this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKMBIrZtC6E
On the 25th of July, she was a guest on an amazing international virtual platform called I am Cameroon. This is a platform with an over 10K followers both on Facebook and YouTube combined. She was invited as a psychotherapist to look at the correlation between Covid – 19 and the Mental Health especially of the front liners. You could watch the show at this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M2dDV4DYV4o
– On that same 25th July, she was equally invited to talk on bereavement and mental health, especially on how long term bereavement could affect our mental health and vice versa. Using her personal experience, she shared how she almost committed suicide, and how to bring support to the bereaved so they don’t feel lost and hopeless through it all. Here is the link to the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cg5QqtNQVZ8
Project Birth certificates for 83 IDP Children in Douala
Good morning world, please we have a project to facilitate the issuance of birth certificates to over 80 IDP kids and we need donations for that project because the costs per child is 10.000frs. We tried to get some fee waiver from the powers that be since November last year but to no avail. Schools resume in October and many might once more not be registered without birth certificates. We would appreciate your donations.
Do you want to join us help them? We can’t do this alone as such we count on your collaboration and support.
Support us by mobile money 00237672576011 – account name is Hope for the Abused and Battered.